Are you struggling to decide what you should do with your life? Are you feeling unmotivated, unfulfilled or frustrated with what you are currently doing? Do you know, deep down, that you were put on this planet for a reason, but you still aren’t quite sure what that reason is? Or do you know where you want to go with your life, but you just don’t know how to get there?
These were all feelings that I felt over the past year, due to lack of clarity, and I believe that most of us suffer from this, at some point in our lives. The good news is that we all have clarity within us. This post is designed to help you find it.
“It’s a lack of clarity that creates chaos and frustration.” – Steve Maraboli
In a previous post, The speech I never made, I talk about the importance of clarity and how I struggled to stay motivated last year, due to lack of clarity in my business and in my life. Now, one year later, I have regained clarity in life and in my career and feel so much better.
I reflected on the journey that I took, in my search for clarity, and I have broken everything down into a system that can be followed. I will share some of the tools that worked for me. I hope this system will work for you, as it did for me, so you can experience the beautiful feeling of clarity.
Step 1: Set The Intention
The first step after realizing and accepting that you lack clarity, is to set the intention to find it. In one of my first posts ever, I talked about the importance of setting intentions and how just this act alone has allowed me to accomplish things in the past, that others did not believe possible.
When we set intentions or goals, we are telling our subconscious minds what we want them to focus on. Once a strong intention is set, our minds will start working, to find a way to make it a reality.
“Our intention creates our reality” – Wayne Dire
Once we set the intention to find clarity, it’s important to then relax and trust our subconscious mind to figure it out. When we become attached and put too much pressure on the result, we actually impede our subconscious mind from doing it’s job. It’s important to let our intentions guide us in the direction we want to go, but it’s best to keep our focus on the present moment, with gratitude for what we already have.
Imagine you are holding a beautiful flower in your hand. This flower represents your intention. Now, if you continue to hold it gently in the palm of your hand, it will remain a beautiful flower. However, if you close your hand around it and squeeze, you will smother it and eventually destroy it. This is what people tend to do to their intentions.
As soon as I let go of my attachment to my intention of finding clarity, it wasn’t long before I found it.
Step 2: Discover Your Life Mission
By life mission, I am referring to our purpose. I define life mission as our reason for being on this planet. I believe we all have one.
My mission is to help and inspire people all around the world to overcome mediocrity and to turn their dreams into reality. To inspire people to live with an open heart and to share their gifts with the world.
“You are here for a special mission. There is a purpose of your life. Find that purpose of your life, work on it and live your life happily.” – Raaz Ajha
Here are some questions that can help with this process…
- What inspires you to the point of having “goosebumps” and why?
- What do you hate that is going on in this world? What do you want to fight against?
- What are your natural gifts?
- If success was guaranteed and failure was not an option, what would you be doing with your life? What difference would you be making in this world?
- If you knew you were going to die in 3 months, how would you spend your final time on this planet? Would you continue doing what you’re currently doing?
- Imagine you already have all the money you’ll ever need, you already own all the material possessions that you’ll ever want to own and you’ve already traveled everywhere you’ve ever wanted to travel? What would would you be doing with your life?
“If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.” – Bishop T.D. Jakes
If you are serious about discovering your life mission, I would highly recommend attending a course called Life Directions, offered by Peak Potentials. This is the course I took last fall that really started the process for me of regaining my clarity. I do not think it is possible to attend this course, with an open mind, and not come out of it with clarity on ones life mission and vision.
Step 3: Formulate Your Vision
Once you discover your life mission, it’s easier to formulate your vision. Vision, as I define it, includes the vehicles that you will use to live out and fulfill your life mission. For example, part of my long-term vision is to be an inspiration speaker, author, business coach and angel investor. These are some of the vehicles that will allow me to fulfill my mission.
I do not believe our visions should just be about business goals though. They should encompass all areas of life; Health, Relationships, Spirituality, Business, Personal Growth, Etc.
“Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe” – Oprah Winfrey
One powerful tool that I used to develop my vision in the past is called vision boarding. Vision boarding is when you take physical images of your long term goals and put them together, typically on a board or piece of paper. I usually work with 5 year visions. I have attached two examples of vision boards that I have made in the past.
When doing vision work, it’s important to not worry about the “How.” How you will achieve your goals does not matter. Do not limit your vision to what you believe you can achieve. Your vision should be a representation of what you want your life to look like, not what you think is possible right now. Leave it to your subconscious mind and the Universe to figure out the how.
“When your ‘Why’ is big enough, the ‘How’ does not matter” – Anonymous
For example, if you look at my first vision board, you will see that one of my goals was to retire my dad within 5 years. At the time, I thought I would retire him through network marketing. However, The Universe had an entirely different plan, and my Dad was able to retire within 2 years through real estate investing.
The “How” was completely different, but that is irrelevant. A lot of times you will achieve your goals in ways that you didn’t even know existed at the time you set the goal.
Step 4: Refine Your Vision Over Time
As I mentioned, I attended a course last fall and came out of it with a clear picture of my mission and long term vision. However, since then, there have been other tools which I used to refine my vision and gain even more clarity. I will share a few of them here.
This is something that I have only recently integrated into my life, but I have already seen results. Clarity is just one of the many benefits that meditation has provided me with. I recently completed a 10-day silent meditation retreat, earlier this year, in Argentina and it was one of the best experiences of my life. I wrote about it here. For more information or to sign up for a Vipassana meditation retreat, you can do so here.
b) Working With Sacred Plants
I spent two weeks, working with Ayahuasaca and Huachuma (San Pedro Cactus), in the Peruvian Amazon, this past May. After attending life directions, I felt clear about my long term vision, however, I still lacked clarity on what my next steps would be, once I return home from traveling. This retreat was what finally gave me this clarity. You can read about my Ayahuasca and Huachuma experiences in my previous posts.
If you have a calling to work with these plants, as I did, I can highly recommend Spirit Quest Sanctuary, located near Iquitos, Peru.
Death is one of the most powerful tools we can use to find clarity. When faced with death, we realize what is really important to us.
Last year, I participated in a process where I was literally put into the mindset that I could very likely die that evening. I had to write a letter to the person I cared about the most. I became really emotional and upset because I realized that I was about to die with neither a woman, whom I loved, nor children in my life to write to.
This was the first time I realized how important is to me to have a family. I was always avoiding relationships because I wanted my freedom. I wanted to work hard to build businesses and travel the world and I always said I would focus on finding a woman and starting a family later.
I realized, in that moment, that there may not be a later. I could die tomorrow. We never know when our lives will end. I lost my younger brothers to a car crash three years ago. There was no warning. One day, they were just gone. We can never know how long our loved ones are going to remain in this world, so don’t take the time we have here for granted.
“Every morning I look in the mirror and ask myself, ‘If I knew I was going to die tomorrow, would I be doing what I am about to do today?’ If the answer is no, too many days in a row, I know that something has to change.” – Steve Jobs
Here is a great song you can listen to, which can help with this process. Close your eyes and really listen to the words.
Step 5: Let Go
Now it’s time for the final and sometimes most difficult step of all. After using your conscious mind to utilize some of the tools I’ve written about above, it’s time to let go. To stop focusing on it. To stop trying. To be completely unattached to the result. To relax and trust that your self conscious mind will figure everything out for you.
As I already mentioned, although I was able to discover my mission and long term vision through conscious effort, I didn’t find complete clarity in what I would do next with my life, until I let go.
“When you see a thing clearly in your mind, your creative ‘success mechanism’ within you takes over and does the job much better than you could do it by conscious effort or willpower” – Maxwell Maltz
I find that it can be very difficult to fully let go and relax while we are still engaged in whatever it is that we are doing that is not making us happy. It was very difficult for me to make progress with my search for clarity, while I was still operating my business last year. It wasn’t until I was in a completely relaxed and peaceful frame of mind, where I was not consciously worried whatsoever about whether I found clarity or not, that I finally found it.
a) Long Term Travel
This brings us to the theme of this blog, which is using travel as a tool to transform our lives. Long term travel has been one of the best tools I have ever utilized to find clarity in my life. During the two biggest transitions of my life (finishing university and transitioning out of my business), both times, I found clarity while traveling the world.
Travel naturally allows me to let go. While I travel, my mind is clear of the responsibilities of business. I am not worried about anything that happened in the past or may happen in the future. It is easy to live in and enjoy the present moment. My mind is relaxed and at peace.
Therefore, there is no reason for my conscious mind to try to force my intention of finding clarity. This is the ideal state of mind to be in for our sub conscious minds to solve our problems for us.
I’m not saying I didn’t enjoy each day, working on my business, because I did. However, it was different. I actually got quite good at separating my business life and personal life. However, at some level, whether I noticed it at the time or not, my mind was rarely as calm and relaxed as it is when I travel.
I consider anything longer than a month to be long term. I find that the 1 or 2 week vacations that most people take each year, just aren’t enough time away to fully let go. In my experience, it usually takes 3-4 weeks for my mind to fully transition from business mode to travel mode.
The first week of a trip, my mind tends to still drift back to things relating to work, problems going on in life, or things that still need to get done back home. This gradually goes away, but I find it usually takes at least 3 weeks for my mind to completely calm down to this ideal state of mind.
Although I believe that long term travel is the ideal option, I understand that sometimes it just isn’t possible to take off and travel right now. Another option is to take a couple days away to completely disconnect. A week, a weekend or even just one day away, without cell phone or internet can go a long way. I used to do this quite often last year, when I was unable to take off to travel because I was still transitioning out of my business.
c) Spend Time Alone In Nature
I find that I get some of my most inspirational and creative thoughts when I am alone in nature or near water. When I am surrounded by nature, my mind tends to calm right down.
Last year, I completed a 48 hour vision quest. I spent 2 days, out in nature, all alone, with no technology, no books and no distractions. All I had was a journal to keep me company. My goal was to write out my 5,10,15,20,25 year visions.
The object was to write without thinking and without proof reading. By the second day, my mind was completely clear and when I wrote out my vision, the words seemed to flow out of me.
If you do not have experience surviving in the woods alone, I am not recommending that you go sleep in the forest by yourself. However, I would recommend spending as much time as possible in nature. Go for nature walks or day hikes. Relax and connect with nature. I think you will be pleasantly surprised by what your sub conscious mind has to say.
Now It’s Time To Use These Tools And Take Action…
I have included a lot of information here, so please don’t get overwhelmed and do nothing. You don’t have to implement everything. The important thing is that you do something. Even if you just choose one or two things that resonate with you, to implement immediately, it can make a big difference.
I’d recommend either taking action now or scheduling a time for you to implement one of these tools in the near future. It’s easy to be lazy and say, “I’ll do it later.” However, in our fast paced world, when we don’t take action immediately, the chance of us taking action ever, dramatically decreases.
Lastly, if you want to find clarity, take full responsibility for finding it. Understand that all of the answers are already inside of you. No one else can give you the answers. It’s up to you, and you alone, to bring them out. Good luck.
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